Anyhow, I was wondering if it would be ok with you if I started an account on Instagram for Noah. I know posting pictures is a sensitive subject for a parent who has lost a child. I just want people to be able to hear Noah’s story and spread awareness. If you would not like me to post, I won’t 🙂 If so, what are some guidelines? (I can put a watermark of pictures of him and make the page private too)
Hang in there Ves, when life throws me a curve ball l think of lenny and Veronique, and what they have been through. And the courage and class they have shown us.
That’s what I was having a tough night about, Steve; the Pozner’s beautiful Noah. I just hate that Noah does not have what the rest of us do, and it gnaws at me. He should be laughing and playing and growing with his sisters. You’re absolutely right Steve. The courage and class Lenny and Veronique have shown us is an example to follow in our own lives. Truly heroes in my book.
Agree one hundred percent ladies. I will see something on tv that has me thinking of Noah. Out of nowhere l find myself in tears saying how unfair it is that Noah can’t be here to enjoy or experience life with his family. You guys are right he and the other victims should be here living out the full life.
I saw a little guy yesterday that could have been Noah’s brother. To see him animated and just being a little guy just made me feel so bad. Your family is always on my mind, Lenny.
Steve, not that I want any of you to be going through emotional pain, but it is a bit of a comfort to know that I’m in good company, and I’m not the only one impacted like this over sweet little Noah’s death. I never would have expected myself or any of you to feel such pain over the death of a little boy we’d all never met. Noah has such a pull on the world. He’s a special little soul. Veronique and Lenny’s pain must be so much more excruciating than ours, yet they continue on with such grace and strength. They are heroes and examples to us all.
In the summer of 2012, I began writing my first science fiction novel. I got through approximately 200 pages when 12-14-12 happened. I’m only about a quarter of the way done, and haven’t touched the story since, except for editing it a bit here and there, just to be able to say I’m working on it still. I had several other story ideas which I worked on intermittently; all stopped. I had several business plans in the works, which I’ve slowed down working toward significantly. It all just seems so frivolous now, and my heart is always so heavy. There is a certain joy that was there that suddenly wasn’t as of 12-14-12. I know it’s irrational. I know it’s unproductive. I know it’s harmful, yet I’m struggling to snap out of it.
The trip to Noah’s playground was not just an honour, but also a great help. Veronique’s speech was healing for me with respect to not putting my life on hold, and I know that she meant every word of it and it’s what’s getting her through. She said, “We must now live life FOR him; without him, yes, but also for him.” She’s absolutely right, and infinitely wise. That’s my focus now; to push forward towards my own accomplishments FOR him; to enjoy the world around me FOR him. Through those of us who grieve for this beautiful little boy, his spirit will experience the things he should have in life. Whenever you are striving for something or enjoying something wonderful, dedicate the experience to Noah in your heart and mind. Every day, he lives in my heart. His place there is permanent. I will crawl out of this funk. Love to the Pozner family…
Ves C you are right. We will all grieve in our own ways. I know the events of this day has effected each one of us with the same impact, but maybe in different ways. I know that for me, mother of 3 boys, 4, 9 and 13, it has almost been like a survivors guilt. I can honestly tell you one thing, I have never said “thank God it wasnt me or my kids”. I have never placed more value on one life over another. I just wish the world, as a whole, could embrace the horror of this tragedy the way we have so we never had this as a reality ever again. Love to everyone…
Ves very well said. It is amazing how I share the same feeling that you do, I can’t explain it but what happened at sandyhook has changed me in so many ways. I have never shown the emotion that I do now since that terrible day. Like I told Lenny Noah has softened my heart and I love him for it. I know how special life is having almost died on a operating table. My life being saved by my aunt’s gift of life. Seeing Noahs life ended so soon just kills me, because I know life is so precious.
I feel the same way, there was a joy to life before 12/14/12, that is no longer there. It deeply impacted me, on a lot of emotional levels.
All I can say is, that this proves that we are human and that much has to be done to safeguard the children. Everyone needs to do what they can. I want to say that I really admire the victims families, in particular the Pozners for their grace and poise under tragic circumstances.
What beautiful heartfelt sentiments & thoughts I’m reading here. I feel very lucky that the Pozners have shared so many moments of Noah with us. The more I learn about Noah, the more thankful I am that he was born part of his family & that they had the gift of those 6 years together. Then I feel the dark reality of what happened, that their gift was taken & taken so brutally & of how utterly wrong it is. I also feel guilty at times watching my kids having fun, because my boys are either side of Noah in age & are into much the same things….I feel that the Pozners could have been us so easily. When the news sunk in about what happened, I hugged my kids extra tight, because of that very thing: in another place it could have been us. I felt something apart from the shock & anger & sorrow too- a loss from my kids’ generation of innocent trust in the sanctity of “safe places”.
I do feel Noah with my boys sometimes; there is a magic to boyhood that I observe & I know they would have got along very well if they had met. In a noisy, crowded party, dancing, or running at the beach splashing around, I watch my kids & Noah appears in my head. Especially at noisy times! I always invite him to join in the melee. So that’s my way of sharing our fun with him. I am in tears at times thinking of him & other times I feel a kind of joyfull spirit there, because I know Noah was a happy much- loved, wanted child.
I admire Lenny & Veronique’s parenthood more than I can say. They really are doing an outstanding job of parenting under immense difficulty & tribulation. The strength & dignity they have displayed is a great example to us, but more importantly, I think, to Noah’s siblings. In the future, as adults, I hope they can gain access to these messages & communities of love & support & understand how awesome their parents, older siblings & grandparents are. And how awesome we think they are too.
Ves C 🙁 I feel your pain, and relate to absolutely everything your saying, you are not alone, this tragedy has been paralyzing for me, the world is not the same.
It is inspiring to read all these different opinions and I feel with you too Ves C
I want to thank Lenny and his family that with this page they give us the opportunity to know Noah, to be close to him and his family, to share some of their experiences with them and to exchange our opinions openly. As said so many times before, this is so very generous of the Pozner family! Thank you, Lenny and thank you to all you people who write comments and share your opinions
People sometimes tell me that it is obsessive to focus so much on one single event, in which we are not even personally involved. They say, why don’t you follow the events in the Middle East or in Ucrainia or in Irak … They say, there are many tragedies every day and for the people involved in these tragedies it’s the biggest tragedy to them… and I know it’s true.
But still I can’t stop thinking of sweet Noah! Always on my mind!
Last night in the German public television the comentator, Klaus Kleber, very known in Germany since he always reads the news in the German public television, said after a news report about the girls missing in Nigeria (I think Google will translate this into English automatically): “Wir fanden, es ist wichtig, an ihr Schicksal zu erinnern, auch wenn dieser Bericht daran nichts ändern wird. Seit ich in diesem Beruf bin, erinnere ich mich an keine Zeit, an der gleichzeitig an so vielen Stellen der Welt Geschichten passierten, bei denen man dachte, das kann doch nicht wahr sein, dass man da gegen nichts machen kann und doch ist es so.(?) Und bei uns geht das Leben weiter wie normal (?), vorläufig jedenfalls.”
My mother told me that not so long ago they had also remembered the Sandy Hook shooting on German television and that the same man had made a similar comment about it, that what had happened in Sandy Hook Elementary School needs to be remembered, although the news report about it won’t bring them back and won’t change the fact that something similar might happen again
I always will remember Noah and the other people who died with him and I read and heard and thought so much about them that I now feel involved. I think the similarity in our lives, in the lives of people living there and people living where I live, and the age of the children who died, which was the same than my child’s age and my friends’ children’s age, are the reason why it is so easy for me to identify with them and their families. I shall never forget the day I first saw Noah on television, read his name, his age, saw his sweet face… I will never, ever forget that. I find it very inspiring to see what the different families, together with so many supporters, have done after their loss, many positive things have been done and are still done and I think that this is most comforting, to know that the worst that happened can through many different ways positively affect the ones who are still alive and the ones to come.
Sending lots of love to the Pozner family today! Many greetings from Germany
Ves, I can totally relate to what you’re saying. I remember I passed the 2nd actuary exam on December 12. The last year and a half have been somewhat of a struggle to figure out where to go next. If your book ever gets published, I’d love to read it. I’ve had a rough couple of days because of an illness of someone close to me, but I can find strength thinking of what the Pozner’s have gone through.
I think I know how you feel. I have so much admiration for Lenny and Veronique. I am so sorry they had to show the world how strong they are. I so wish they were just another family with little kids enjoying life.
I know for me I can’t look at a family picture without thinking of it being before or after 12/14/12, and think about Noah and his friends. God Bless you Noah.
Sandra Brattge Its not obsessive at all. We all ( thanks to Lenny) got to take a peek in the life of a precious boy. We got to see the beauty of his life and what he meant to his family. It’s not obsessive, it’s caring. I think the world needs to start caring for others, maybe then we will see change in our laws.
I am so encouraged by all the comments, I feel exactly the same as all of you. I don’t think it’s obsessive, I think Lenny has made the comment several times that people handle grief differently, and though we never knew Noah or the other victims personally, I believe anyone with a heart was affected detrimentally in some way or another. I know for me, I had a first grader at the time, and I also have a son who very much reminds me of Noah, who is about a yr younger than him, I was affected as if it really were my own child, it was a terrifying thing to grasp and process, every time I would kiss my kids goodnight, and especially the one who reminds me of Noah I would just stare at his face and grieve as though I had lost him. Eventually I had to start telling myself, you did not lose your son, he is still with you, just cherish the time you have together….and so I have. I don’t think I really ever found healing, until I found out about this page. Lenny has allowed us into their lives and now I feel like I do know Noah, and their family, and many of you, it has truly been a source of healing in my heart. I know Noah is in heaven and at peace. My struggle is more with the loss his family has to live with and that is what grieves me. In one sense i can identify but i know it is a thousand times harder for them than I can ever identify with. As for if we should be grieving still or if it is obsession, It’s my personal belief that Noah has been placed on all of our hearts more so than with others, so that God could knit all of our hearts together as a blanket of comfort for the Pozners and even for one another, there is a purpose to how our hearts have been brought together, and I think it’s beautiful.
Thank you Marybeth for those beautiful words. I know I’ve found comfort over Noah’s loss through Lenny and all of you. I just hope we’ve had a fraction of the same healing effect on Lenny and Veronique. Ultimately, it’s about them for me. It’s about beautiful, precious Noah and maintaining connectedness with him. I refuse to let him fade away, and I refuse to believe that he’s gone completely.
Oh, and Marybeth Santos, I meant to thank you right away for your comment about not being surprised I’m a writer, but I commented further about Noah and his family and then forgot to come back to your post. Thank you for that kind gift of encouragement. It meant a lot.
Noah looks so focused in this picture. Is hs working on a drawing?
I think he is on the beach. He is wearing the same shirt as the picture used on his playground and that was on the beach.
Thanks lenny, l hope to see Noahs playground someday it would be a very special experience for me.
He is so beautiful <3
That sweet little face is a testament to the beauty of this world.
Sweet baby…
God he is just so breathtakingly beautiful…Those eyelashes and those lips…I just love him so much <3
Such a precious little boy.
sweet picture of Noah i love those young innocent years they are so cute at those ages.
Impossibly beautiful boy. Every photo of his is a good one. Love to family.
He is so cute! I’m sorry for your loss!
Anyhow, I was wondering if it would be ok with you if I started an account on Instagram for Noah. I know posting pictures is a sensitive subject for a parent who has lost a child. I just want people to be able to hear Noah’s story and spread awareness. If you would not like me to post, I won’t 🙂 If so, what are some guidelines? (I can put a watermark of pictures of him and make the page private too)
Looking at these photos must bring back a lot of emotional memories.
Sweet Noah……
Just felt the need to see Noah ans send love…
I think about this most precious boy everyday…sending hugs to the pozner family.
If perfection had a face, it would be Noah’s. Tears for you sweet boy.
Having a tough night. 🙁
Hang in there Ves, when life throws me a curve ball l think of lenny and Veronique, and what they have been through. And the courage and class they have shown us.
That’s what I was having a tough night about, Steve; the Pozner’s beautiful Noah. I just hate that Noah does not have what the rest of us do, and it gnaws at me. He should be laughing and playing and growing with his sisters. You’re absolutely right Steve. The courage and class Lenny and Veronique have shown us is an example to follow in our own lives. Truly heroes in my book.
It is righteously unfair that Noah does not have the privilege of growing up. He is a saint, along with the other victims.
Agree one hundred percent ladies. I will see something on tv that has me thinking of Noah. Out of nowhere l find myself in tears saying how unfair it is that Noah can’t be here to enjoy or experience life with his family. You guys are right he and the other victims should be here living out the full life.
I saw a little guy yesterday that could have been Noah’s brother. To see him animated and just being a little guy just made me feel so bad. Your family is always on my mind, Lenny.
Steve, not that I want any of you to be going through emotional pain, but it is a bit of a comfort to know that I’m in good company, and I’m not the only one impacted like this over sweet little Noah’s death. I never would have expected myself or any of you to feel such pain over the death of a little boy we’d all never met. Noah has such a pull on the world. He’s a special little soul. Veronique and Lenny’s pain must be so much more excruciating than ours, yet they continue on with such grace and strength. They are heroes and examples to us all.
In the summer of 2012, I began writing my first science fiction novel. I got through approximately 200 pages when 12-14-12 happened. I’m only about a quarter of the way done, and haven’t touched the story since, except for editing it a bit here and there, just to be able to say I’m working on it still. I had several other story ideas which I worked on intermittently; all stopped. I had several business plans in the works, which I’ve slowed down working toward significantly. It all just seems so frivolous now, and my heart is always so heavy. There is a certain joy that was there that suddenly wasn’t as of 12-14-12. I know it’s irrational. I know it’s unproductive. I know it’s harmful, yet I’m struggling to snap out of it.
The trip to Noah’s playground was not just an honour, but also a great help. Veronique’s speech was healing for me with respect to not putting my life on hold, and I know that she meant every word of it and it’s what’s getting her through. She said, “We must now live life FOR him; without him, yes, but also for him.” She’s absolutely right, and infinitely wise. That’s my focus now; to push forward towards my own accomplishments FOR him; to enjoy the world around me FOR him. Through those of us who grieve for this beautiful little boy, his spirit will experience the things he should have in life. Whenever you are striving for something or enjoying something wonderful, dedicate the experience to Noah in your heart and mind. Every day, he lives in my heart. His place there is permanent. I will crawl out of this funk. Love to the Pozner family…
Ves C you are right. We will all grieve in our own ways. I know the events of this day has effected each one of us with the same impact, but maybe in different ways. I know that for me, mother of 3 boys, 4, 9 and 13, it has almost been like a survivors guilt. I can honestly tell you one thing, I have never said “thank God it wasnt me or my kids”. I have never placed more value on one life over another. I just wish the world, as a whole, could embrace the horror of this tragedy the way we have so we never had this as a reality ever again. Love to everyone…
Perfect analogy Avis; survivors guilt. That really rings true.
Ves very well said. It is amazing how I share the same feeling that you do, I can’t explain it but what happened at sandyhook has changed me in so many ways. I have never shown the emotion that I do now since that terrible day. Like I told Lenny Noah has softened my heart and I love him for it. I know how special life is having almost died on a operating table. My life being saved by my aunt’s gift of life. Seeing Noahs life ended so soon just kills me, because I know life is so precious.
I feel the same way, there was a joy to life before 12/14/12, that is no longer there. It deeply impacted me, on a lot of emotional levels.
All I can say is, that this proves that we are human and that much has to be done to safeguard the children. Everyone needs to do what they can. I want to say that I really admire the victims families, in particular the Pozners for their grace and poise under tragic circumstances.
What beautiful heartfelt sentiments & thoughts I’m reading here. I feel very lucky that the Pozners have shared so many moments of Noah with us. The more I learn about Noah, the more thankful I am that he was born part of his family & that they had the gift of those 6 years together. Then I feel the dark reality of what happened, that their gift was taken & taken so brutally & of how utterly wrong it is. I also feel guilty at times watching my kids having fun, because my boys are either side of Noah in age & are into much the same things….I feel that the Pozners could have been us so easily. When the news sunk in about what happened, I hugged my kids extra tight, because of that very thing: in another place it could have been us. I felt something apart from the shock & anger & sorrow too- a loss from my kids’ generation of innocent trust in the sanctity of “safe places”.
I do feel Noah with my boys sometimes; there is a magic to boyhood that I observe & I know they would have got along very well if they had met. In a noisy, crowded party, dancing, or running at the beach splashing around, I watch my kids & Noah appears in my head. Especially at noisy times! I always invite him to join in the melee. So that’s my way of sharing our fun with him. I am in tears at times thinking of him & other times I feel a kind of joyfull spirit there, because I know Noah was a happy much- loved, wanted child.
I admire Lenny & Veronique’s parenthood more than I can say. They really are doing an outstanding job of parenting under immense difficulty & tribulation. The strength & dignity they have displayed is a great example to us, but more importantly, I think, to Noah’s siblings. In the future, as adults, I hope they can gain access to these messages & communities of love & support & understand how awesome their parents, older siblings & grandparents are. And how awesome we think they are too.
I imagine you find reminders of Noah every where.
Ves C 🙁 I feel your pain, and relate to absolutely everything your saying, you are not alone, this tragedy has been paralyzing for me, the world is not the same.
It is inspiring to read all these different opinions and I feel with you too Ves C
I want to thank Lenny and his family that with this page they give us the opportunity to know Noah, to be close to him and his family, to share some of their experiences with them and to exchange our opinions openly. As said so many times before, this is so very generous of the Pozner family! Thank you, Lenny and thank you to all you people who write comments and share your opinions
People sometimes tell me that it is obsessive to focus so much on one single event, in which we are not even personally involved. They say, why don’t you follow the events in the Middle East or in Ucrainia or in Irak … They say, there are many tragedies every day and for the people involved in these tragedies it’s the biggest tragedy to them… and I know it’s true.
But still I can’t stop thinking of sweet Noah! Always on my mind!
Last night in the German public television the comentator, Klaus Kleber, very known in Germany since he always reads the news in the German public television, said after a news report about the girls missing in Nigeria (I think Google will translate this into English automatically): “Wir fanden, es ist wichtig, an ihr Schicksal zu erinnern, auch wenn dieser Bericht daran nichts ändern wird. Seit ich in diesem Beruf bin, erinnere ich mich an keine Zeit, an der gleichzeitig an so vielen Stellen der Welt Geschichten passierten, bei denen man dachte, das kann doch nicht wahr sein, dass man da gegen nichts machen kann und doch ist es so.(?) Und bei uns geht das Leben weiter wie normal (?), vorläufig jedenfalls.”
http://www.zdf.de/ZDFmediathek#/beitrag/video/2213000/ZDF-heute-journal-vom-6-August-2014
(from 22:08 min)
I thought this to be so true …
My mother told me that not so long ago they had also remembered the Sandy Hook shooting on German television and that the same man had made a similar comment about it, that what had happened in Sandy Hook Elementary School needs to be remembered, although the news report about it won’t bring them back and won’t change the fact that something similar might happen again
I always will remember Noah and the other people who died with him and I read and heard and thought so much about them that I now feel involved. I think the similarity in our lives, in the lives of people living there and people living where I live, and the age of the children who died, which was the same than my child’s age and my friends’ children’s age, are the reason why it is so easy for me to identify with them and their families. I shall never forget the day I first saw Noah on television, read his name, his age, saw his sweet face… I will never, ever forget that. I find it very inspiring to see what the different families, together with so many supporters, have done after their loss, many positive things have been done and are still done and I think that this is most comforting, to know that the worst that happened can through many different ways positively affect the ones who are still alive and the ones to come.
Sending lots of love to the Pozner family today! Many greetings from Germany
Ves, I can totally relate to what you’re saying. I remember I passed the 2nd actuary exam on December 12. The last year and a half have been somewhat of a struggle to figure out where to go next. If your book ever gets published, I’d love to read it. I’ve had a rough couple of days because of an illness of someone close to me, but I can find strength thinking of what the Pozner’s have gone through.
Hi Everyone,
I think I know how you feel. I have so much admiration for Lenny and Veronique. I am so sorry they had to show the world how strong they are. I so wish they were just another family with little kids enjoying life.
I know for me I can’t look at a family picture without thinking of it being before or after 12/14/12, and think about Noah and his friends. God Bless you Noah.
Sandra Brattge Its not obsessive at all. We all ( thanks to Lenny) got to take a peek in the life of a precious boy. We got to see the beauty of his life and what he meant to his family. It’s not obsessive, it’s caring. I think the world needs to start caring for others, maybe then we will see change in our laws.
That sweet face will always be etched in my heart
I am so encouraged by all the comments, I feel exactly the same as all of you. I don’t think it’s obsessive, I think Lenny has made the comment several times that people handle grief differently, and though we never knew Noah or the other victims personally, I believe anyone with a heart was affected detrimentally in some way or another. I know for me, I had a first grader at the time, and I also have a son who very much reminds me of Noah, who is about a yr younger than him, I was affected as if it really were my own child, it was a terrifying thing to grasp and process, every time I would kiss my kids goodnight, and especially the one who reminds me of Noah I would just stare at his face and grieve as though I had lost him. Eventually I had to start telling myself, you did not lose your son, he is still with you, just cherish the time you have together….and so I have. I don’t think I really ever found healing, until I found out about this page. Lenny has allowed us into their lives and now I feel like I do know Noah, and their family, and many of you, it has truly been a source of healing in my heart. I know Noah is in heaven and at peace. My struggle is more with the loss his family has to live with and that is what grieves me. In one sense i can identify but i know it is a thousand times harder for them than I can ever identify with. As for if we should be grieving still or if it is obsession, It’s my personal belief that Noah has been placed on all of our hearts more so than with others, so that God could knit all of our hearts together as a blanket of comfort for the Pozners and even for one another, there is a purpose to how our hearts have been brought together, and I think it’s beautiful.
And Ves C it doesn’t surprise me at all that you are a writer ;)
Thank you Marybeth for those beautiful words. I know I’ve found comfort over Noah’s loss through Lenny and all of you. I just hope we’ve had a fraction of the same healing effect on Lenny and Veronique. Ultimately, it’s about them for me. It’s about beautiful, precious Noah and maintaining connectedness with him. I refuse to let him fade away, and I refuse to believe that he’s gone completely.
I hope so too and I too won’t let him fade away.
I agree. And Mr Noah himself is far too bright & mischevious to do something as ordinary as fade away.
I love that Julia! 🙂
Oh, and Marybeth Santos, I meant to thank you right away for your comment about not being surprised I’m a writer, but I commented further about Noah and his family and then forgot to come back to your post. Thank you for that kind gift of encouragement. It meant a lot.
I’m definitely not a writer, I’m much more of a talker. I’d love to read Ves’ book when she finishes it.
Me too!
You guys are so great, Marybeth Santos and Dan Geiger!
I’m a big science fiction buff, and I work in a library, so I’m around books a lot.
I am a librarian by training too.
Noah is so focused here …love that photo…never forget and always loved ????